Rise Above: How to Succeed When Your Manager Holds You Back

Let’s get real—navigating your career can feel like climbing a mountain, especially when your manager isn’t exactly cheering you on from the sidelines. If you’ve ever felt like your growth is being held back, your voice isn’t heard, or your contributions aren’t valued, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to face this uphill battle without a strategy.

In Episode 7 of Corporate IT Girl: Rise, Shine, and Make ‘Em Remember You, I tackle the tough truth about what to do when your manager isn’t a true leader and doesn’t support your growth. For women of color, this reality can feel even more amplified. Bias—whether overt or subtle—can make the corporate world seem like an impossible maze. But here’s the good news: you have the power to rise above it, find your allies, and take control of your career.

Let’s break it down step by step.

Step 1: Recognize the Signs of Bias

Bias isn’t always obvious. Sometimes it shows up as a lack of acknowledgment, vague criticism, or the ever-frustrating “you’re not ready yet.” Recognizing these patterns isn’t about focusing on the negative—it’s about understanding the dynamics so you can respond strategically.

Here’s what to do: start by documenting everything. Save emails, write down feedback (constructive or not), and keep track of your wins. This record isn’t just a confidence booster—it’s your secret weapon for advocating for yourself with clarity and evidence.

Step 2: Build Your Inner Circle of Allies

When support isn’t coming from your manager, it’s time to look beyond them. Seek out mentors, sponsors, and colleagues who see your value and are willing to amplify it. This might mean reaching across departments, joining professional networks, or connecting with peers in the Corporate Girl Circle: Build, Bond, Break Barriers—our private Facebook group where ambitious women support each other to thrive.

Why it works: Allies can provide the feedback, encouragement, and opportunities your manager might not. Think of them as your career hype squad, helping you stay motivated and focused on the bigger picture.

Step 3: Master the Art of Resilience and Self-Advocacy

Here’s the thing—speaking up for yourself when you’re feeling unsupported isn’t easy, but it’s essential. Start by setting boundaries around unconstructive feedback. For example, if your manager’s input is vague, ask for actionable advice: “Can you share specific steps I can take to improve in this area?” This approach shows professionalism and reinforces that you’re here to grow—not to settle.

At the same time, don’t forget to prioritize self-care. Working in a challenging environment can be draining, so make time for activities that restore your energy. Whether it’s journaling, working out, or connecting with loved ones, keeping your mental and emotional health intact is a critical part of the journey.

Step 4: Know When It’s Time to Move On

Sometimes, no matter how much effort you put in, the environment simply isn’t right for your growth. If you’ve exhausted your options, it might be time to explore new opportunities. Reflect on your goals, leverage your network, and research organizations that value diversity and inclusion. Remember: the right workplace will see your potential and support your ambitions.

Your Next Steps to Rise Above

This journey isn’t easy, but it’s absolutely worth it. Here’s how you can take action right now:

1. Download Your Free Guide: Grab my Corporate IT Girl: 10 Steps to Master Your Yearly Review. It’s packed with tools to help you track your achievements, articulate your value, and prepare for conversations that matter.
2. Join the Fatje's Corporate Girl Circle: Surround yourself with ambitious women who are navigating the same challenges and rising above them. Together, we’re building a private community where your growth is celebrated, your voice is heard, and your career aspirations are supported.
3. Listen to Episode 7: Dive deeper into the strategies and stories that will help you thrive in any environment. You’re stronger than you know, and this episode will remind you just how powerful you are.

You’re Not Alone

Your worth isn’t defined by anyone else’s limitations. If your manager doesn’t see your potential, that’s their loss—not yours. Keep documenting your wins, building your network, and advocating for the career you deserve. And if you ever need a boost, remember: there’s a community of women (and this podcast!) cheering you on every step of the way.

Let’s rise, shine, and make them remember you. 🌟